“This is the hard part about being intensive: that people have told us all our lives that we’re dangerous. And mostly, I will tell you that we are not. That we just need to find...

“It’s a spark. It’s a glimmer. It’s the thing that happens that keeps us on the phone for three hours…. It’s the shimmer under the skin. It’s the joy. It’s the relief.” In the last...

“How do you get from generalizations to the specificity that allows you to interact with a particular human being that’s across from you?” Our theme of “Love the One You’re With” continues… but let’s not...

“How do you know who it is that’s across from you? What they need, what they want. How you can take care of them, while also under stress and also trying to get a lot...

“often the breakdown between us is that we don’t communicate with the same kinds of expressions of care. And when we don’t use the same expressions of care, that means that it’s harder to recognize...

“predictability makes people feel comfortable. It makes them feel known.” Let’s take a brief pause from our theme of “Love the One You’re With,” and go on a little side quest. Tara McMullin’s excellent podcast...

“we have this built-in system of contempt. It’s a mutual reciprocal system of contempt in our culture between intensives and expansives.” It’s February, and our theme this month is “Love the One You’re With.” And...

“When we are desperate to rest, and we don’t rest, it sets off every alarm bell in our system…. Rest is the space of becoming.” Wrapping up our theme of the tension between the need...

“How much are we really going to trust that we take one step and “way will open.” And when way opens, how de we trust that we’ll go that way?” There is a Quaker saying...

“Beginning often begins with imagining. We think and we visualize and we imagine and we research. And it’s possible to let the research become a stall tactic. But there’s also a lot of value to...