making time

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Hi, everyone, thanks for tuning in. This is

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the one about making time. This is the one about making space

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and making time and making the room in our hearts to do the

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things we know we should do. Because the lie that we tell

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ourselves, that everyone else tells us, is that we don't have

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time. That we can't because there's no time, there's no

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time, there's no energy, there's no money, there's no resources,

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there's no something that's so limited, that we can't help but

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not. And instead, we have to cut a corner. And that corner that

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we're cutting is not just a corner of a box, it's a corner

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of a toe or a heel. It's not just leaking a few loose spoons

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in the move across country. It's leaking blood. And we tell

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ourselves over and over that it's okay, it's got to be okay.

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Here, have some have some bandages, have a styptic pencil,

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have a have a have a have a something, something just to

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stop the bleeding so we can keep marching forward, forward,

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forward, forward, forward forward,. What if forward is not

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always the right direction? What if even six is not enough

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directions? What if there are more directions than there are

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stars in the sky? And we can't even imagine them as long as we

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are so focused on forward, forward, forward. What if

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instead of forward there's something else? What if instead

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of forward there's no cutting corners, there's no missing toes

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or heels? There's no blood on the track, no need to look back

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because nothing is up. Because that's not how we roll. We

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don't. We don't. We don't lie. We don't lie to ourselves or to

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other people about what we need or what we want or who we are.

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Or whether today is a good day or just a bad day or really

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shitty day, we don't lie. And why don't we lie? Because when

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we don't lie, we don't have to remember what we said we just

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have to remember what's true. And we don't have to pretend

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that we don't care. We don't have to pretend that we don't

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care. Instead, we can honor and acknowledge and tell the truth,

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which is that we do care, we are built to care. We are wired to

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care, we are wired to wish that everything could matter 100%.

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And that is a capacity problem. Everything does matter 100%. But

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what we individually can do about it is limited by the body

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parts we have, the brain parts we have, the food, the shelter,

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the energy parts we have. But that's only when we act

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individually. It's when we act individually that we begin to

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think that cutting corners or toes is okay. That it's

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necessary. That it's part of life. It's not. It's not part of

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life, though. Everybody, all the time, is part of life. And if

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we're running businesses, that's not half-true, that's

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double-true. Because of all the people we touch. And so what

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happens when we can't, we can't find the resources. When we

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think we need to cut corners, what happens is we speed up but

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what could happen is we could slow down. We could stop

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promising to do 10 things if we can only do five. We could start

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sharing what we know about doing things with other people who

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need a five things to do, we can give them five things and that

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can be theirs. And we'll do our five things and that can be

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ours. Or maybe we'll trade back and forth 10 things but not

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always the same 10 things but making sure that all 10 of those

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corners can stay whole. Wheels are good, but not every corner

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needs to be chopped off. Not every object needs to be round.

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Sometimes we need something that's robust and square or

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triangular. Sometimes we fit a whole bunch of triangles

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together and we get a hexagon. Sometimes the whole, the big

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round, juicy, ripe whole comes from each of us showing up with

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our own little pointy wedge.The pointy wedge that has all of its

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corners intact. So How do we find the time? How do we find

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the resources? Number one, we

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work with other people, we don't have to have it all, we don't

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have to do it all, we don't have to be at all. That is a lie that

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we can leave behind in 1980, or 1880, or some other time, when

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they thought that humans were at the top of some kind of

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ridiculous structure. We are not. We are just part of it,

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like everyone else is part of it. And our companies are part

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of it, too. And our employees are part of it too. And our

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clients are part of it to. Our companies are part of it, too.

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And our clients are part of it too. And we are all just part of

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it. We are all, together, part of it. We are all what we need

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to be, we are all together in it. That's all. That's all. And

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that's everything. And that's perfect. But if I personally,

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you personally, we personally, individually, do need more,

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where do we find it? We find it in the space of time, we find it

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in slowing down, we find it in changing expectations and

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promises. We find it in claiming the actual cost of our labor.

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This will take 10 weeks. That will take six months. This

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portrait cannot be painted by tomorrow. It cannot. That money

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doesn't exist yet, so you can't have it yet. But you can

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eventually. Because it will eventually. Because it exists

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somewhere already, but it doesn't exist in my control or

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in my pocket. And so there has to be some work, some

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rearranging, some collaboration with the universe first. If I

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don't have the resources, I'm just going to tell you I don't

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have the resources. And because I'm human and you're human,

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we're gonna figure out what the next best step is. Sometimes it

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means that I can't hire you, or you can't hire me. And sometimes

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it means that we can figure out a way for all of us to get what

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we need in some other way. And when it comes to time, when

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there is no time, when we're out of time, or energy, or

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attention, or hope, that's when we slow down. That's when we put

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an extra 50% into the calendar for everything. That's when we

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realize that somewhere the demand is unreasonable. And that

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as the business owner, we have the ability to change that. And