making time

Hi, everyone, thanks for tuning in. This is

the one about making time. This is the one about making space

and making time and making the room in our hearts to do the

things we know we should do. Because the lie that we tell

ourselves, that everyone else tells us, is that we don't have

time. That we can't because there's no time, there's no

time, there's no energy, there's no money, there's no resources,

there's no something that's so limited, that we can't help but

not. And instead, we have to cut a corner. And that corner that

we're cutting is not just a corner of a box, it's a corner

of a toe or a heel. It's not just leaking a few loose spoons

in the move across country. It's leaking blood. And we tell

ourselves over and over that it's okay, it's got to be okay.

Here, have some have some bandages, have a styptic pencil,

have a have a have a have a something, something just to

stop the bleeding so we can keep marching forward, forward,

forward, forward, forward forward,. What if forward is not

always the right direction? What if even six is not enough

directions? What if there are more directions than there are

stars in the sky? And we can't even imagine them as long as we

are so focused on forward, forward, forward. What if

instead of forward there's something else? What if instead

of forward there's no cutting corners, there's no missing toes

or heels? There's no blood on the track, no need to look back

because nothing is up. Because that's not how we roll. We

don't. We don't. We don't lie. We don't lie to ourselves or to

other people about what we need or what we want or who we are.

Or whether today is a good day or just a bad day or really

shitty day, we don't lie. And why don't we lie? Because when

we don't lie, we don't have to remember what we said we just

have to remember what's true. And we don't have to pretend

that we don't care. We don't have to pretend that we don't

care. Instead, we can honor and acknowledge and tell the truth,

which is that we do care, we are built to care. We are wired to

care, we are wired to wish that everything could matter 100%.

And that is a capacity problem. Everything does matter 100%. But

what we individually can do about it is limited by the body

parts we have, the brain parts we have, the food, the shelter,

the energy parts we have. But that's only when we act

individually. It's when we act individually that we begin to

think that cutting corners or toes is okay. That it's

necessary. That it's part of life. It's not. It's not part of

life, though. Everybody, all the time, is part of life. And if

we're running businesses, that's not half-true, that's

double-true. Because of all the people we touch. And so what

happens when we can't, we can't find the resources. When we

think we need to cut corners, what happens is we speed up but

what could happen is we could slow down. We could stop

promising to do 10 things if we can only do five. We could start

sharing what we know about doing things with other people who

need a five things to do, we can give them five things and that

can be theirs. And we'll do our five things and that can be

ours. Or maybe we'll trade back and forth 10 things but not

always the same 10 things but making sure that all 10 of those

corners can stay whole. Wheels are good, but not every corner

needs to be chopped off. Not every object needs to be round.

Sometimes we need something that's robust and square or

triangular. Sometimes we fit a whole bunch of triangles

together and we get a hexagon. Sometimes the whole, the big

round, juicy, ripe whole comes from each of us showing up with

our own little pointy wedge.The pointy wedge that has all of its

corners intact. So How do we find the time? How do we find

the resources? Number one, we

work with other people, we don't have to have it all, we don't

have to do it all, we don't have to be at all. That is a lie that

they thought that humans were at the top of some kind of

ridiculous structure. We are not. We are just part of it,

like everyone else is part of it. And our companies are part

of it, too. And our employees are part of it too. And our

clients are part of it to. Our companies are part of it, too.

And our clients are part of it too. And we are all just part of

it. We are all, together, part of it. We are all what we need

to be, we are all together in it. That's all. That's all. And

that's everything. And that's perfect. But if I personally,

you personally, we personally, individually, do need more,

where do we find it? We find it in the space of time, we find it

in slowing down, we find it in changing expectations and

promises. We find it in claiming the actual cost of our labor.

This will take 10 weeks. That will take six months. This

portrait cannot be painted by tomorrow. It cannot. That money

doesn't exist yet, so you can't have it yet. But you can

eventually. Because it will eventually. Because it exists

somewhere already, but it doesn't exist in my control or

in my pocket. And so there has to be some work, some

rearranging, some collaboration with the universe first. If I

don't have the resources, I'm just going to tell you I don't

have the resources. And because I'm human and you're human,

we're gonna figure out what the next best step is. Sometimes it

means that I can't hire you, or you can't hire me. And sometimes

it means that we can figure out a way for all of us to get what

we need in some other way. And when it comes to time, when

there is no time, when we're out of time, or energy, or

attention, or hope, that's when we slow down. That's when we put

an extra 50% into the calendar for everything. That's when we

realize that somewhere the demand is unreasonable. And that

as the business owner, we have the ability to change that. And